Airplane Adventures: My Friend NEEDS My Forgiveness and THEN God's

 

I was seated next to a seasoned well dressed lady on a recent flight and the lady asked me if she could talk to me. I quickly fastened my seatbelt and told the agitated woman that I would be glad to listen to her…

“Christians are the most judgmental, egotistical, self righteous people I have ever met. I want nothing to do with those one dimensional, lying, conditional loving no good people!” I hope I didn’t just offend you but these people get on my last nerve! These goody goodies parade around like they are above all of us… when in fact they are condescending, backstabbing liars that wouldn’t know the truth if it bit them…

I sat listening to the woman and she asked me what I thought of her assessment of Christians. I told her that I could understand her point of view and wholeheartedly agreed. The woman was pleased to have an ally and told me that she could tell that I was kind, caring and a gentle man who loved to listen to people.

 

I asked the woman if there was something that brought her to these strong conclusions about Christians. The seasoned woman was at the end of her rope because a trusted childhood friend who discipled and mentored her in her Christian walk for over 15 years had been sleeping with the pastor of her church for over five years and she was the last to know. The woman stood up for her friend’s righteous character until her admitted she was in fact guilty.

“My stomach is in knots every night. I have headaches and I am throwing up all the time.”

As I gently listened to the woman and could feel her pain and anger I asked the woman if she wanted to be freed from her symptoms. The lady told me emphatically that she would do anything…. Anything I asked… Yes, I said I would do anything….

 

Promise you won’t hit or slug me. The woman gave me an incredulous look….I’m waiting… the woman said. I want to be freed from this pain. Ok… remember, you asked for it…

I gently and softly said forgiveness… Can you speak up I can’t hear you. Forgiveness will take care of your symptoms. You are so right. Why didn’t I think of that. The woman got a huge grin on her face. She  smiled and agreed, The shameless hussy, no the Slut…needs to ask MY  forgiveness for lying to me and making ME sick.Then she  needs to ask the church and then God to forgive her for her scandalous ways…..Why are you quiet…The woman asked me… 

I care and I don’t know how to tell you…. It’s ok. I know you care… go ahead and just tell me…

I took a breath and said… ok… No… You need to ask God and the woman to forgive You!

You have got to be kidding! It will be a cold day in ________. No way. No sir! 

I asked the lady if her friend’s stomach was in knots?  If she was throwing up constantly? She answers no on both counts. So, it sounds like…. I am letting the friends behavior get the best of me… she is controlling me…. because I am letting her. The lady allowed me to pray with her for forgiveness for her friend. She asked God to forgive her and she later said she missed her friend and felt like a huge hole was in her heart. The refreshed and relieved woman asked if she give me a hug and keep in touch. I told her yes and she informed me that she was going to get ahold of her friend and get this taken care of.

In this Encouraging Encounter we find a woman who was angry and needed to have someone hear her feelings and validate her hurt and mistreatment. Notice that I simply agreed with how she felt. The woman had no clue why I agreed with her. She was able to talk freely without a road block. I never admitted to het my love and believe in Jesus Christ. The woman figured it out when we prayed.

All to often we put up obstacles and people do not want to talk with us because of bad experiences or that we don’t live in the real world.

I am pleased to say the two friends did forgive each other and are working back to a trusting relationship.